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[Emergence]When we get our intrinsic desires met to the degree that they are important to us, then we feel fulfilled, happy, and our life has meaning. This is in distinction to short term happiness we get from having a nice meal, or going shopping. When our environment supports our intrinsic desire, we thrive. Our work will be better, we will be happy and motivated and engaged. Practical action you can take to improve your leadership, communications and awareness. More than 1,500 subscribers now receive this free monthly newsletter. Thanks for passing it on! To SUBSCRIBE, please use the links at the bottom of this issue. ©Syzergy Pty Ltd. For permission to post or Get the Best out of You and your People. Our Intrinsic Desires and How they Motivate Us. For the last 8 years in my work as a Coach, I have worked with hundreds of clients identifying their needs and values. Let me give you a real life example. One of my intrinsic desires is power. Power in this context means authority, leadership, success and achievement. Several years ago I was in a work situation where I went from being my own boss for the 15 years prior to this position, to being in a situation where I was micromanaged. While I wasn’t completely unconscious of my intrinsic desire for power, I didn’t have complete clarity around this, and so for about 18 months I suffered this situation, rationalising that there was something wrong with me, and that I had to learn how to work with people. In truth, my intrinsic desire for power was not being met, and until it was met, I would never have been happy in that situation. While it was a miserable experience on one level, on another level I did get to understand myself and the kind of environment that allows me to thrive. Research has shown that there are about 16 intrinsic desires that we all have in common. However, each of us has a hierarchy of how these desires are important in our lives. Research also shows that these desires are in place in our early childhood, and that for the most part, they remain with us for our entire lives. Only the degree to which they cause us to react or respond will change as we do become more aware of them and reach a higher level of maturity in their application. When I work with clients on these intrinsic desires, I liken them to our nonnegotiable needs for air, food and water. Our intrinsic desires are also non-negotiable. We will not die if we do not get them met, however, life will be miserable, and we will have zero to low motivation. Our intrinsic desires are also end goals. We move towards them for no other reason than we find pleasure in doing so. A value however will influence your choices about where to invest your energy. They are not necessarily the same as my intrinsic desires or needs. If I value achievement, but it is not an intrinsic desire, I may or may not achieve to a higher level. If it is an intrinsic desire, I simply have achievement embedded into my internal architecture, and I will find ways to achieve, naturally. When I do achieve I will feel an immense sense of satisfaction and fulfilment. Meeting our intrinsic desires does feed us. We feel better when they are met. Values usually exist at the conscious level, intrinsic desires are often unconscious. Values may change over time, with life conditions. Intrinsic desires are unlikely to change although they can mature. Our intrinsic desires will predict our behaviour. Put someone with a high intrinsic desire for order into a messy environment, and unless they can clean things up and create order, they will become very unhappy/snappy people.
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When our environment supports our intrinsic desire, we thrive. Our work will be better, we will be happy and motivated and engaged. Many of my clients ask me how they can motivate their staff. The sure fire way to do this is to meet their individual intrinsic desires. Sounds hard, especially if you have a large staff. It requires us as leaders to be aware of our people at a deeper level, and to support their intrinsic desires. In simple terms, it is leveraging and supporting the uniqueness of our people. The Reiss Profile allows us to determine the intrinsic desires or motives for people very quickly, so we can support them to thrive. It also allows us to look at whom we have on our team. For example, one of my clients had his team take the Reiss Profile and discovered that his team was heavily weighted towards social and people desires, with only one team member showing either leadership, or independence, and one showing a high competitive streak. He needs more staff to want to step up to leadership positions, and to expressive their natural competitiveness in the market place. Lets look at an example. A person with a high need for power, curiosity, order, status and physical activity and a low need for acceptance, saving, social contact, family and tranquillity. This person will seek authority and leadership roles, particularly ones that have status attached to them. They will be constantly seeking to learn, and will operate from a much more theoretical base than an experiential one. They will become extremely dysfunctional if there is too much chaos and disorder. They have little regard for what people think of them, however, there is a little bit of conflict here because of their high status need. They want to be sure people know their rank in life. They live for today, with little regard for tomorrow from a financial point of view. They will be very detached when it comes to things, and people, discarding them easily. They are very happy on their own, and will not place family in front of their work, or their physical exercise. If they do not get their bodies moving, they will be miserable and de-motivated. Applications of knowing your Intrinsic Desires or Motives.
Resources. I am offering a free teleclass to explore this subject further. This class will be at the following time. For those who would like to take the Reiss online profile, for the month of August there will be a special offer for $50US for the assessment only, and $175US for the assessment plus a 45-minute telephone debrief with me. (This is usually offered for the fee of $250US) On the Personal Side. Marathon Results.Last month I mentioned that I was running the Gold Coast marathon July 3rd. I am happy to report that I completed this event in 3 hours and 41 minutes. While this was about 11 minutes slower than I was planning, it was my best marathon in 5 years, and gets me well under the qualifying time for the Boston marathon in April next year, which is the Big marathon for next year. (This year I am running Honolulu, as part of my 10 year plan to run the top ten marathons in the world, one a year. Last year, year #1, was New York.) Seeking Your Feedback. Offer for Free Coaching. Plus Events.I am considering creating a spot on our web site for people to register for a free one on one coaching session. Of course, the catch is that this session will be taped, and will be available for visitors to the web site to download and play back. We certainly can make sure names are changed for anonymity. Please let me know if you would be interested in Send me an email to Christine@syzergy.biz with Free Coaching Sessions in the subject line.
September 29/30th I will be speaking at the International Coach Federation Australasian Conference in Brisbane, Australia. See http://www.icfaustralasia.com/index.html for more information. The topic, “Presencing the Head, the Heart and the Being in Leadership” October 5th. Launch of the Dare to Care program in Brisbane Australia. Please contact me if you would like more information. A Great Magazine, KosmosRecently I subscribed to a new magazine called Kosmos. www.kosmosjournal.org The editorial policy of Kosmos is somewhat different from those of other journals. We invite our contributors because of the quality of their being and their authentic passion for a relevant topic. I am so excited when the articles arrive. I feel life in them and they compel me to expand my circle of concern and to search more deeply. As I read the articles the theme of the Issue emerges on its own. Soon I can’t let it go. I am searching even more deeply and keep circling back to Oneness -- Kosmos -- Alignment.
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