Joe Kort & Associates Kort’s Korner Newsletter
In This Issue: November 2006
    1. News at Joe Kort & Associates 
    2. Bring in the New Year with "Reclaiming The Man in the Mirror" Dec. 31, 2006 to Jan. 5, 2007
    3. “Treating Co-Occurring Disorders: Chemical Dependency and Sexual Addiction”
    4. Joe in the NEWS & MEDIA as expert on mixed orientation marriages and male friendships
    5. Visit Joe on Myspace.com
    6. Joe's Book Updates and Booksignings at A Different Light Bookstore in LA January 8, 2007





NEWS AT JOE KORT & ASSOCIATES, PC
Hello Everyone,

If you are new to Kort's Korner I want to welcome you. If you were gone for a while and have returned I want to welcome you back. And if you know of others would be interested in this newsletter please feel free to forward it onto them.

This past month I have been busy in the news talking with newspapers being interviewed about coming out as October 11 was National Coming Out Day. I was also interviewed by the Detroit News about the "other man" in affairs where heterosexually married gay men cheat on their straight spouses. The reporter wanted to explore what was happening for the "other man" involved in the affair as most of the media focuses either on the betrayed spouse or the heterosexually gay man. I was also interviewed by USA Today on male friendships in the media. Check out all of these articles below in the links under "Joe in the NEWS & MEDIA.

There is still room available in my workshop at Esalen for "Reclaiming the Man in the Mirror". It is a week of fun, joy, emotional pain and release and gay male bonding. I have been doing these workshops since 1997 and never tire of facilitating the work and helping gay men reach their full potential.

After Esalen I will be doing some talks, lectures and trainings as well as booksignings in Los Angeles. For dates and times read below in this ezine as well as check out my website joekort.com

Have a great November and enjoy Fall!

Warmly, Joe Kort, LMSW

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JOE KORT & ASSOCIATES OFFERINGS:

Psychotherapy Services

Telephone Coaching and Consultation

Clinical Consulting and Supervision Services for Psychotherapists

Frequently Asked Questions


The following are Joe Kort's areas of specialties:


Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity

Sexual Anorexia

Sexual Abuse

Straight men who have sex with men

Erotic Intelligence

Chemical Dependency

Imago Relationship Therapy

Monogamy/Nonmonogamy Issues

Breakup Recovery

Coming Out Issues

Gay Affirmative Therapy

Depression and Anxiety Disorders
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Bring in the New Year with "Reclaiming The Man in the Mirror"

A workshop on sex, love and intimacy for Gay and Bisexual Men

December 31-January 5, 2007

Esalen in Big Sur, California
esalen.org

This workshop is for partnered and/or single gay men. While male couples can attend it is not designed for the couple. Both partners can work together in exercises but the focus will be on them individually.

This workshop focuses on sex, love, and intimacy among gay men. Joe Kort writes: "Most people, gay and straight alike, do not know if their sexual fantasies and/or sexual acts are healthy versus unhealthy. The secret logic of sexual fantasies and desires can help unlock information stored away in a gay man's history that can help him enjoy his sexuality even more. There is an erotic intelligence that can teach a person how to know and understand himself in a deeper way."

This workshop starts out with the sexual aspects of relationships and moves to love and commitment. Gay men will learn the mystery of why they are drawn to Mr. Right and how to stay connected and partnered with the man of their dreams. This workshop will focus on how to incorporate sex, love, and intimacy, and how to keep and maintain a relationship.


*Come to UNCOVER and DISCOVER your Sexual Shadow!*
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ABOUT THE WORKSHOP:

We live in a sexually illiterate society. There is little to no permission to examine openly our sexuality in terms of orientation, behavior and fantasies. Most people, gay and straight alike, do not know if their sexual fantasies and/or sexual acts are healthy versus unhealthy. While gay men are more inclined to act out their sexual desires and fantasies more openly than their heterosexual counterparts, there still lies confusion as to what is positive and self-affirming and what is not.

There is also confusion about what is sex, what is love and what is intimacy. This workshop will explore the definitions of each of these and how to integrate them all together for gay men. Much of our culture as gay men, as well as for our heterosexual counterparts, are confused about how to make this integration. There is also confusion about how to have healthy sex, love and intimacy without having to have all of them combined.

This workshop will help clarify all of this.

 How do you define sex?

 What is healthy versus unhealthy sex?

 Do you understand the secret logic of your sexual fantasies?

 What is your sexual shadow?

 Are you sexually addicted, compulsive or just have a large sexual appetite?

 Do you carry sexual shame?

 How do you feel about your body?

 Do you want to improve your sex life?

 Are you getting the love you want in your relationship?

 Are you keeping the love you find when you think you found Mr. Right?

 What is your definition of love?

 What is your definition of intimacy?

 What are the stages of love?

These are just some of the questions we will be examining at the upcoming workshop. The workshop will include guided imagery, experiential exercises, communication exercises and lectures.

We will explore sexual behavior and fantasies with understanding, compassion, and without judgment.


For more information about Reclaiming the Man in the Mirror and for cost, times and registration go to Registration






“Treating Co-Occurring Disorders: Chemical Dependency and Sexual Addiction”

“Treating Co-Occurring Disorders: Chemical Dependency and Sexual Addiction”

A Behavioral Health Professional Seminar

Tuesday, January 9, 8:30 am – Noon
Glendale Memorial Hospital Auditorium
3 CEU’s: Board of Behavioral Sciences Provider # PCE2854, Board Of Registered Nurses, BRN Provider # 13569
RSVP by 12/15/06, Call (866) 594-8844
$50.00 Seminar Fee

To identify the signs and clinical effects of, and the interactions between chemical dependency and sexual addiction;

To understand current clinical strategies for intervening with drug/ alcohol addiction and compulsive sexual behavior;

To develop and implement strategies designed to prompt treatment compliance and motivation, and to prompt trigger identification and avoidance;

To understand continuity of care resources and supports for the recovery from drug and sex addiction;

To improve clinical outcomes through understanding and integrating sound relapse prevention, compulsive sex and drug addiction therapies, while addressing paired drug use/ cravings and libidinal cues/ sexual behavior.

Presenter: Joe Kort, MSW


Book sales and signing at the event.

Presented By: Twin Town Treatment Centers, Alternatives,
Crossroads Centre Antigua, Glendale Memorial Hospital Alpha Treatment Center





Joe Kort in the news

DETROIT NEWS

Other man faces pain of adultery, too:

Secret gay affairs also put strain on the third party as married men rarely leave their wives.

Kimberly Hayes Taylor / The Detroit News

Over the last couple of years, Americans have discovered men on the down low through talk shows, television specials and even on the big screen in "Brokeback Mountain."

Two years ago, New Jersey Gov. James McGreevey made headlines with his resignation from office, admitting he was "a gay American" who had an adulterous affair with a former aide. Released last month, McGreevey's tell-all book, "The Confession" (Regan, $26.95), details his struggle with his sexual identity and his gay love affair.

To read more go to The Detroit News

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USA TODAY

Comedy or drama, shows play it straight

10/26/2006.

By Ann Oldenburg, USA TODAY

Two guys go on a fishing trip and sleep in the same bed. Are they gay?

Nope, at least not if they're on network TV.

It's a trend: best-friends men. Heterosexual buddies. Close chums. Sitcom guys don't have to just sit around drinking beer and watching football. They can talk. They can share. They can be intimate — emotionally.

And these prime-time pals are suddenly all over the fall-season shows in a way not seen since Bert and Ernie or Batman and Robin:

On ABC's Boston Legal, James Spader and William Shatner are pompous lawyers who regularly meet on the balcony of their law firm to share their innermost thoughts.

On FX's Nip/Tuck, Julian McMahon and Dylan Walsh are two sexy plastic surgeon partners who are so close one of them has a gay dream about the other.

On Fox's House, which returns with new episodes Tuesday after a break for baseball programming, Hugh Laurie and Robert Sean Leonard are two serious doctors. They don't cut each other any slack, yet they're closer to each other than they are to any women in their lives.

To read more go to USA TODAY
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And to watch my television appearances on Mixed Orienation Marriages go to Tyra Banks and Montel Shows




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Joe's Book Updates

A Different Light Bookstore

Booksigning with Joe Kort.

Los Angeles, CA
January 8, 2007.
For more information go to http://A Different Light Bookstore

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About "10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love":

Chapter 1: Live in Integrity and Be Accountable to Yourself and Your Partner

Chapter 2: Become the Man You Were Meant to Be

Chapter 3: Discover How What You Hate Can Help You Love

Chapter 4: Go from a Gay Boy to a Gay Man with Your Father

Chapter 5: Recognize the Difference Between Mommy Nearest, Mommy Dearest, and Mommy Queerest

Chapter 6: Learn How To Disarm--Not Strong-arm--Your Partner In Communication

Chapter 7: Know Your Sexual Shadow

Chapter 8: Understand the New Mixed Marriage: When Three's a Crowd

Chapter 9: How to Call It Quits Without Being a Quitter

Chapter 10: Bring Your Own Shadow

Introduction: Start Your Hero's Journey and Let Your Initiation Begin!


By showing how to look closely at the deepest sources of your wants and needs, "10 SMART THINGS GAY MEN CAN DO TO FIND REAL LOVE" will help you achieve the kind of lasting close relationships you deserve.

Read an introduction to the book.

Visit http://www.amazon.com to purchase the book.

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Foreign translations of Joe's First Book

"10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives" was originally published in 2003. In 2004 it was translated in both German and in Spanish.

Each of these books can be ordered at German Translation: and Spanish Translation:
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*Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician:
The Essential Guide*

In press from WW Norton Books by Joe in 2007.

A book for helping straight clinicians work with Gays and Lesbians
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As a psychotherapist, if you have gay and lesbian clients,

It’s not enough to be gay-friendly.

The fact is, even the best intentioned therapists have some level of homophobia to overcome.

From birth, heterosexist culture imprints us to think that heterosexuality is primary,and that any other orientation is inferior.

It’s not even enough to be gay yourself.

Gay or straight, we’re taught the homonegative belief that the "alternate lifestyle" of being gay is a more difficult way to live. But the "alternative" of living heterosexually is actually harder for gay men and lesbians, and can lead only to depression and self-defeating, or even self-destructive behaviors.

Learn the issues that gay men and lesbians face.

They may surprise you!

COMING From WW Norton Books by Joe Kort: "Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician: The Essential Guide" by Joe Kort, MSW, LMSW

This book will offer skills and information to straight therapist working with gay, bisexual and lesbian clients. It is not enough to be gay friendly. It is crucial that therapists be armed with the facts and information to do effective work with their gay, lesbian and bisexual clients.

It is based on my work with Gay and Lesbian clients, my own personal journey as a gay male and psychotherapist of 21 years, along with the information I teach at Wayne State University's School of Social Work on Lesbian and Gay Studies
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Click on the images of the books to purchase Joe's two published books at Joe's library .

If you want to book a signing or workshop anywhere in your area please feel free to contact me at joekort@joekort.com or 248-399-7317.









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