Joe Kort & Associates Kort’s Korner Newsletter
In This Issue: January 2006

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    IN THIS ISSUE OF KORT'S KORNER:

    1. About Joe Kort's Practice: Therapy/Life Coaching/Workshops
    2. Joe's 2008 Workshop & Teleclass Dates!
    3. Is E-Harmony Antigay? Take the Poll
    4. Sexually Abused Males
    5. Presentations in Washington, DC
    6. New Blurb by Dr. Laura Berman

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News at Joe Kort & Associates, PC

Joe's Blogs

To read Joe's blogs called Gay Affirmative Therapy and Straight Guise.

These blogs are about current events, books, workshops, articles, movies and anything related to my specialties within my private practice.

Joe Kort's areas of expertise for individuals and couples are:

Individual, Group and Couple's Psychotherapy

Telephone Coaching and Consultation

Clinical Consulting and Supervision Services for Psychotherapists

Frequently Asked Questions about hiring Joe Kort for his services


Joe Kort's areas of specialties are:

Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity
Sexual Anorexia
Sexual Abuse
Straight men who have sex with men
Erotic Intelligence
Chemical Dependency
Imago Relationship Therapy
Monogamy/Nonmonogamy Issues
Breakup Recovery
Coming Out Issues
Gay Affirmative Therapy
Depression and Anxiety Disorders

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2008 Workshop/Class Dates
EACH WORKSHOP BELOW IS HELD AT JOE KORT'S OFFICE


March 1-2, 2008

Heterosexual Couples
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April 19-20, 2008

Lesbian and Gay Male Couples
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April 22-May 27, 2008

Relationship Class Tuesdays 8-10PM (Straight, Gay and Lesbian Singles and Individuals)
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June 21-22, 2008

Reclaiming the Man in the Mirror Workshop for Gay/Bisexual Men

For More information on how to register for these workshops go to Joe Kort's Workshops and Classes






GayAffirmativeTherapy.com

E-Harmony: Anti-gay?

Ever since I realized that E-Harmony does not offer services to gays and lesbians I have been appalled. Talking with other gays and lesbians their feelings are mixed. Some agree with me that it is like blocking African-Americans and other minorities from their service. Others say they are a private company and can decide to do what they feel is best and E-Harmony does not want to cater to the GLBTQ community and should not be judged as discriminating.

What do you think?

Take the poll on this blog and give us your opinion here on this blog.
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What is Gay Affirmative Therapy (GAT)?

GAT explained.
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For a comprehensive bibliography of related book on GAT go to Related Books at GayAffirmativeTherapy.com.




Straightguise.com
I found an excellent site about raped and sexually abused males. Every therapist working with male survivors as well as male survivors themselves will find this resource helpful.


The site at which I found the following is Men Against Sexual Violence


MYTHS AND FACTS ABOUT MALE VICTIMS OF RAPE

To read go to Myths and Fact about Male Victims of Rape

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Read about the many reasons why straight men have sex with men at StraightGuise.com
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For a comprehensive bibliography of RELATED BOOKS ON Straight Men Who Have Sex With Men go to Related Books on StraightGuise.com.





Upcoming Trainings and Presentations

Psychotherapy Networker Symposium East

March 13th - 16th, 2008
Omni Shoreham Hotel - Washington, DC

Psychotherapy Networker Symposium

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Unfree To Be Me: Preventing and Healing the Abuse of Gay Youth


Many therapists ask, “How can you tell if a child or teenager is gay or lesbian?” There is no rule of thumb nor any scientific literature that claims to know for sure. But the gay clients in your office were once gay children and teenager--and they will tell you that for sure. The trauma done to the neglect and abuse of these children is profound. Therapists have an opportunity to help these children and their families to reduce the amount of psychological damage that is done through neglect, bullying and lack of acceptance.

This workshop will focus on how to address children and teenagers who self-identify as gay or lesbian and their families.

Learning Objectives:

1. Identity ways to help gay and lesbian children and teenagers.

2. Address therapist's anxiety around how to ask and address a child/teenager's homosexuality.

3. Learn ways to help parents cope with having a gay child as well as helping the child cope with unaccepting parents.

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When Gay Guise Happens to Straight Marriages

When a male spouse in a heterosexual marriage reveals he fantasizes about having sex with men, is caught looking at online gay porn and in gay chat rooms, and possibly is having sex with men, women--and these men--often worry that he is gay and that the marriage needs to end. However, for many of these men this is not about gayness. A variety of reasons exist as to why men seek other men for sexhave sex with another man which are not about a gay identity. Some of these men wish to engage in sexual contact with their wives which she will not do. He believes his sexual contact with men is "not cheating". Therapists, being politically correct, often believe the man is in denial about his homosexuality and move him in a direction toward coming out gay when--in fact--he is not.

In this workshop, we'll discuss ways of dealing with the reactivity of the "betrayed" wife, confronting our own and the couple's homophobia, understand the male's interest in sexual contact with men, and helping the couple decide what course is best for them.

1. Understand the psychological meaning of the arousal template of the men who seek sex with men (MSM's) who are not gay or bisexual.

2. Learn to help the couple communicate in non-reactive ways about sexuality and to understand what the behavior means and how it impacts the marriage.

3. Address the fears, anxieties and insecurities of these wives about her husband's sexual interests and how to help her listen effectively to him without it being personalized.





Joe Kort's Book Updates

10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives

10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love

Both published by Alyson Books, New York.
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Foreign translations of Joe's First Book


"10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives" was originally published in 2003. In 2004 it was translated into German and in 2005 it was translated into Spanish.

Each of these books can be ordered at Joe's Books
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Click on the images of the books to purchase Joe's two published books at Joe's library .
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Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician:
The Essential Guide

PUBLISHED BY: WW Norton Books

The FIRST BOOK for helping straight clinicians work with Gays and Lesbians

The official publication date of March 17th, 2008.

This is the date when the book will be released to bookstores.

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This book will offer skills and information to straight therapist working with gay, bisexual and lesbian clients. It is not enough to be gay friendly. It is crucial that therapists be armed with the facts and information to do effective work with their gay, lesbian and bisexual clients.

It is based on my work with Gay and Lesbian clients, my own personal journey as a gay male and psychotherapist of 25 years, along with the information I teach at Wayne State University's School of Social Work on Lesbian and Gay Studies

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Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician
BOOK ENDORSEMENTS

“I encourage all therapists worth their salt to read this brilliant and important book, whether or not they treat gays and lesbians. While it is theoretically sound and clinically instructive, the chief value of this book is its humanization of therapy, challenging us all to face our demons and accept the fact of difference. It is essentially about therapeutic justice. I hope this book gets the visibility it deserves.”
—Harville Hendrix, PhD, cofounder of Imago Relationship Therapy, and author of Receiving Love: Transform Your Relationship By Letting Yourself Be Loved
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“This book is the essential guide for the straight therapist working with gay and lesbian clients. Avoiding politically correct sermonizing, Kort brings together clinically relevant research while challenging the attitudes and common myths that can get in the way of effective therapy. Refreshingly direct and clinically practical, this is one of the most readable and nuanced books about therapy I’ve seen in a long time.”
—Jette Simon, Clinical Psychologist and Director, The Washington D.C. Training Institute for Couples Therapy
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Joe Kort fills a huge gap in the training of clinicians. In an informative and non-judgemental way he covers the wide range of therapeutic scenarios and guides the reader through the subtleties of treating Gays and Lesbians. An important read for therapists-in-training as well as clinicians working with Gay and Lesbian clients.
—Laura Berman, LCSW, PhD, author of Passion Prescription: 10
weeks to your best sex ever


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From WW Norton Books Website


It has been over three decades since the American Psychiatric Association removed homosexuality as a category of deviant behavior from the DSM. Same-sex marriage is recognized in certain states, gay-straight alliances are springing up in high schools across the country, and major religious denominations are embracing gay clergy. Yet despite the sea change of attitudes toward homosexuality, many well-meaning straight therapists are still at a loss as to how to effectively counsel their gay and lesbian clients.

This book will offer straight therapists the tools they need to counsel gay and lesbian clients effectively.

This book presents principles of gay affirmative therapy (GAT). GAT is not a specific system of doing therapy but rather a framework for clinicians to approach work with gay and lesbian clients. Some of the fundamental principles of GAT include: understanding and combating heterosexism; recognizing heterosexual privilege where it exists—institutionally, legally, and societally; and understanding and combating your own homophobia—and that of your clients. In general, GAT explores the trauma, shame, alienation, isolation, and neglect that occur to lesbians and gays as children.

This book also explains what GAT is not. GAT does not mean that therapists blame homophobia for everything and overlook mental and emotional problems. It does not de-emphasize emotional disorders and avoid examining any pathology. It does not explain and eradicate all the problems faced by gays and lesbians.

Does this seem confusing? Then you’re on the right track! As therapists, your responsibility is to be armed with all the up-to-date information. Knowing all the ways problems can arise, you can then assess with clients—and with their help—what applies and what doesn’t. This book provides concrete guidelines for getting to the heart of the matter with clients. It will help you examine your own imprinted heterosexism and develop comfortable, appreciative feelings about homosexuality so you can successfully work with gay clients. It will help you screen yourself for any covert homophobia and it will help you approach your work with gay and lesbian clients in a manner most likely to be successful.

TABLE OF CONTENTS

1 Psychotherapy for Lesbians and Gays: Setting
the Gay Record—Straight!

2. What Is Gay Affirmative Therapy?

3. Growing Up Lesbian or Gay

4. Covert Cultural Sexual Abuse

5. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder From Growing
Up Lesbian or Gay

6. Developmental Insults

7. Coming Out

8. Helping Families of Lesbians and Gays

9. Lesbian and Gay Sexuality

10. Working With Today’s Lesbian and Gay Couples

11. The New Mixed Marriage: One Lesbian or Gay
Spouse and One Straight

12. Gay Affirmative Therapy Principles in Clinical
Practice: Establishing a Differential Diagnosis

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To pre-order click here >>> "Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician: The Essential Guide" by Joe Kort, MSW, LMSW
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Autographed Books

You can purchase an autographed copy of Joe's books by using a credit card or sending a check, money order to

Joe Kort, LMSW, 25600 Woodward Ave., Suite 218, Royal Oak, MI 48067

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If you want to book a signing or workshop anywhere in your area please feel free to contact me at joekort@joekort.com or 248-399-7317.








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