Complaints

We humans complain often. Some say, if we didn't complain, we'd have nothing to talk about! Harv Eker, a speaker and trainer on creating a Millionaire Mind, asks his audience to give up complaining for one week and see what happens to their financial life! It’s not an easy task to break this habit. And, let's face it, life hands us plenty to complain about if we want to.

What if you knew that you had more control over what happens in your life than you thought you had? The truth is we complain because we haven't claimed our power to make changes. Complaining puts us in victim mode – at the effect of some cause outside of ourselves. When we move to greater self-responsibility, we make the changes that eliminate the complaints or we make requests of others to make those changes.

Here's the process:

1. Identify the complaint.
2. Get that you have a right to make changes.
3. Handle the complaint yourself if you can.
4. If you need help from someone else, formulate a request that would completely handle the complaint for you.
5. Make the request of the other.
6. A request is not a demand! The other person could agree, decline or re-negotiate the request.

Here's an example. I used to complain that I couldn't read when my husband was watching TV in the living room. Now, I could move to another room, but the living room is where all the comfortable chairs are. So, my options are:

1. move to another room
2. buy a comfortable chair for another room
3. read at the library
4. burn the TV (;-))
5. make a request about the noise

I requested that he wear a headset when we were in the room together and I want to read. He countered by being willing if I did the research and bought the headset. Now, he even asks me to wear it when he wants to read and I'm watching a show! We also outfitted other parts of our home with comfy chairs and reading lamps.

Result: greater harmony in the relationship; less griping; practice at compromise; both of us can read or watch TV at the same time.

What are you complaining about lately?
What request would completely handle that complaint for you?

Read below how my Law of Attraction Teleclasses can help you with making requests.

Law of Attraction Teleclasses

I use the Law of Attraction in my coaching to assist my clients to attract a new job, more clients, a new love, or whatever else it is that you most want in your life. In April, I'm offering classes in the "law of attraction" for readers of "The Quest." You can learn more about this at www.questcoaching.com/attracting.html. The 4 week teleclass series will be offered on an ongoing basis for only $199! The calls will be recorded so they can be listened to again during the week or to make up a call that's been missed.

LEARN

• About the law of attraction and how to make it work for you
• Place your order for work the way that you want it to be
• Reduce stress in 17 seconds or less
• Move towards an inspiring future instead of a past that has already gone
• Experience more ease and joy in your life
• Delight in wonderful synchronicities
• Learn the 3 step process to manifest anything!

WHEN
Teleclass starting April 18, 2005 at 12 Noon Eastern Time

WHERE
The comfort of your own office or home on a tele-bridge. The class takes place virtually. You can call from anywhere in the world (land lines preferred). Calls will be recorded so if you have to miss a class, you can make it up by listening to the recording.

This course can be customized for organizations and can be part of a larger initiative. In person training is offered in organizations.

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As part of the V-Day 2005 Worldwide Campaign to Stop Violence against Women and Girls
V-DAY 2005 BOHEMIA PRESENTS

A PRODUCTION OF EVE ENSLER'S THE VAGINA MONOLOGUES
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Proceeds to Benefit:
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